“I must be a mermaid. I have no fear of depths and a great fear of shallow living.”
The first step in breaking free from our comfort zone is to be honest with ourselves and admit that we’re not all that comfortable. The idea of having to face and feel our pain may seem intimidating and like a bunch of work, but the truth is: denial is a full time job. Change is scary, but not changing is scarier.
The pain of not changing is greater than the pain it takes to change.
The amount of energy it takes to stifle emotions far surpasses dealing with them. It is exhausting living cut off from ourselves. It is exhausting attempting to act okay when we’re not okay. Just do what it takes to be okay. Yes, you might have to face some of the ugly stuff, but trying to avoid pain is the most painful way to live. We think by stuffing our feelings we remain in control, but the feelings we stuff are actually controlling us. They find...